Chapter 5 Understand Your Worth

UNDERSTAND YOUR WORTH

Self discovery helps individuals in a good way, It's possible to have a prince with a mindset, the mindset is one important component that this self discovery book seeks to. The human mind is up and not down for a purpose a friend Milan Bwalya often stated. The products of your mindset which could either be poverty or riches, failure or success, confidence or luck of it, feeling you rock or that you suck is all in all a state of mind which in turn natures or shapes your self image and self worth that either makes you to rock or to flop.

Many people in the world under value themselves in so many ways am sorry to say due to ignorance of who they are we are all born with nothing we find it all on earth and nobody is born with a life valued more than others that's where it starts from but once we are in this world we should self discover, i believe it's the duty of each parent to remind there children about there worth when they are young so that when they grow they cant let any one put them down they will remember the words of there parent but that's not all there is about this topic, you see it's always a duty of some one to open your eyes but it's not there business if you want to see or not, thats why self discovery book speaks to the mind of an individual but there is much effort expected from an individual in terms of commitment, will, determination and faith as well as sacrifice on your part but know for sure that even a manufacturer of beauty soap knows the value of the product they make that's why there product is not under priced in the super market or a local store but it still would be affordable despite it's price being slightly higher than common soap for a person who knows his value and worth would go for that beauty soap knowing the smooth touch and magic it will do on his or her skin to stay good looking and fly.

'' When i was a teenager and a shy person dealing with all kinds of attitude problems and all that stuff i didn't know myself worth and value. I had to get hurt all the time i wanted to date some really fine girl from middle high and high school because i didn't know my self worth i didn't even know what self worth was so my attitude, conduct, speech, approach e.t.c used to scare all the honeys aways but i used to get compliments that my smile was nice, my eyes were sexy and my height was okay as for my spoken english that it sounded like some one with a couple of degrees and still i was all alone with no one to say happy valentines, i missed you, i am on your side, promise you won't break my heart e.t.c i just was alone to make matters worse with attitude problems and numerous insecurities but do you know what my problem was? let me break it down for you, i was deaf to hear every good compliment some one made to me every now and then all i saw in me was a very un cool, un productive, ugly, un wanted, a sad person e.t. and you know my biggest problem was the fact that i didn't know my self worth and this doesn't mean that i was worth nothing, no, every human being is worth something but not every human being knows what they are worth''

WHAT CAN HELP YOU BOOST YOURSELF ESTEEM

1. Yourself, many are the times we need people to open our eyes and show us what we want to see, some one gives you a piece of cake and you want them to put it in your mouth and make you chew it, that's a problem i once had if a preety girl told me i was a cool guy she would consider dating compared to other guys all i would do was brush waiting for the moment for her to ask me out and waiting for that moment only to realise was I would wait forever if I thought that was going to happen.

In this life there are situations where only you can help yourself with like getting to know yourself worth somebody can tell you that you rock like Denzel Washington or Van Vicker or that you suck like Idi Amin or Brock Lesner but it's you to know what you are worth every one is entitled to their own opion about you because what matters is how you take and respond to those opinions afterall you are you, they are talking but they are not you so if somebody tries to weigh you down because they hate you or because they want to push you in a corner think about your self worth that makes up your self esteem and like what Eleano Rosevelt said '' no one can make you feel inferior without your permission'' meaning they make you feel inferior because you permit what they say to get to your mind you make a big deal out of it, but know for sure that the first person who can help you is no one else but you.

2. People close to you, there are certain people who are close to you who would want you to suffer at this or that but there are those who loves you for real that even when you are wrong they will tell you that you certainly are wrong and such people you must ask them how they feel about you and what kind of person they thimk you are knowing they will be honest if they say something good take it and let it be part of your self worth if they say something bad take a moment and think about it and then make a decision to make some improvements there because you are trying to boost your self worth and image.

3. Look at all the things you are good at, here identify them all if you are good at playing soccer, public speaking, you got a nice accent, you are good at rapping, singing, at maths, science, mechanics, barbing, hair styling, modelling, marketing, writting, baking, cooking, landscaping, team building, news reporting e.t.c i mean anything that you are good at be it big or small but just anything that you are good at as long as you are reminded by it every day that comes by it's a part of you and just that awareness helps boost your self worth that you really are unique, special and good at something.

4. An idle person is certainly un productive and un cool person and you don't want them near you nobody wants them near, here you are urged to stay away from anything that makes you idle and embrace the things that keeps you busy and stay focused, hard work is of out most importance and who doesn't like a hard working person? no one, because every one knows that success, fame and fortune are all a product of hard work but idleness brings nothing to the table and poverty can be easily identified with idleness so stay away from idleness it's not good to you and it makes you suck in the eyes on those who know and care about you and regards self worth it's nothing you can have if you are idle or you are lazy, you could be a broke man but if you got plans and ambitions a lady can stay by your side unlike staying on the side of a broke no ambition homey.

5. Forgive, it's important to learn to forgive others and hold no grudge against another person, you know life has rows and flaws and at times we all wrong each other but what a brave person who knows there worth would do is forgive and put it behind them even if forgetting is the hardest, it's good to forgive others that's what self discovery is all about a peace of mind an afican proverb says '' if a child tells his mother that mom you won't sleep tonight, then that child too will not sleep to make sure his mom doesn't sleep'' so if you don't forgive some one or yourself you are more like binding that person including your self as you allow your heart to be filled with hatred and it's not good for you as a person who can't forgive another person can not even forgive him or herself and can not have any self worth.

6. Excercise and take care of yourself, look good, feel good, stay healthy you know it's good to burn excess fat and to look athlectic or sexy if people feel good about you then you will have a greater reason to feel good about yourself that's the self worth i want you to keep building

''When i would just sit home about all day doing nothing every day i realized that even the respect that my sibblings had for me started going away slowly and in society i stopped being regarded all that people could say about me was '' you mean Michael the jobless drunk that guy who claims he is got what it takes to go to hollywood, or make a New York Times best seller but he know there is nothing a jobless drunk can do but just dream''

To tell you what fellow men you want to be happy and have yourself worth intact then work hard and have no fellowship with idleness, laziness and irrisponsibility that's even some of the things that attracts the opposite sex, i don't mean to say they all want some one who can buy them the world they just want some one one who has ambition whether that person has not yet made it compared to a broke person with no goals, no vision and ambitions.

SELF WORTH

This is all about you and you so you got to be straight about this '' I heard story of a fine fly young lady a drop dead diva, looking at her you would think she was a television super star but she had never been on tv before, she had every thing in terms of the beauty of out side but she had no self worth and respect, mostly she was patronising bars and night club not that she came from a humble home or something as a matter of fact she had everything just not self discovered yet and mostly she was furastrated that with all her beauty guys used to leave her even for girls she was better than and so she gave up on her life and on her dreams if it where up to her she would even would have ended her life when so many people envied her it was clear she couldn't see what she was worth'

Life is really cool and it all depends on how you look at it, how you see things most importantly how you approach it, always trying to be your better self and strategic person being a brand that you are. Sometimes you've got to ask your self, are you a brand that can sell or not? a good brand sells because the manufacturer has spent so many resources when making it, the marketer and advertiser knows it's worth and you the consumer knows that, which is why you line up by the till in super markets, malls and local stores, but a bad brand makes the maker go broke and out of business so i ask you one more time just what kind of a brand are you? the one that can sell or not stand up and act fast.

CONCLUSION

Self discovery is a complete program i have been developing for years knowing that it's effective and helpful to you who want to self discover and live a much more happier life as a matter of fact a fulfilled one that you deserve to live and live each day better. If you can dream it you can also live it and your life would never be the same again.

''Back when i didn't know myself worth i lived to compromise and take every thing they all just wanted to throw at me. I would just take it and say i have no choice but now i will tell you the lesson i learnt that the choice i used to say i didn't have i actually did have it was to say yes or no with the view of knowing what it is that I really wanted in my life. Know what it is that you really want in your life, knowing that if you do some thing wrong there would be consequences and if it's some thing good they will be benefits that will just seem alright and add to your joy and satisfaction. In my life i have seen things if you say appearances may be deceived i have experienced things and you all agree that experience is the best teacher and for many times i have been it's student and it taught me a whole lot i cant keep to myself but i have to share with the world.

''When i went to Mbala high i had alot of guyz hurting on me and i said to myself that maybe they don't like the way i look like or i did something wrong that fellow niggars didn't want to forgive me for''

Then later i realised that most of the guys were playing rough with me because i was a smooth free style rapper, fluent english speaker and i wasn't a boastful type and that they used to mistake me for a rich mans son keeping up a very low profile so they wanted to probably provoke me to show my true identity and i didn't know it back then that people used to see something in me, the kind of stuff that i couldn't see in myself, but all worked good eventually but didn't work out for some of those. Later i met people who were way too tired and couldn't take it they commited crime and were jailed and some they lost there lives after going through the same painful thing that didn't kill me and not only me but a million other people from all over the world and it just made us stronger, to sign up for the boot camp on self worth you must check details at the end of the book and call to make reservations if self discovery worked for me and all those people who stand out in politics, business, relationships, sports, academics list is endless.