Chapter 4 Love, the Strongest Force

Love is the greatest force in marriage. Without love, marriage is not complete. Love is the bedrock of every relationship. It is the backbone that gives strength and hope, allowing your relationship or home to stand firm amid challenges that can threaten your bond.

Even if love seems broken at times, it can be restored. Love is strong-stronger even than the eagle. Love is friendly, supportive, and everything you need in your home.

Let your love in marriage resemble that of the eagle. Eagles fly alone and at high altitudes. They don't fly with sparrows, ravens, or other small birds. Likewise, stay away from narrow-minded people-those who speak negatively about your marriage or relationship, or who try to bring you down.

Be cautious of friends who may seem supportive but have destructive intentions. Some may envy your relationship and secretly hope for its downfall-so they can either feel better about their own losses or even take your partner's heart from you. Share only what is necessary about your relationship. Many who seem like friends are wolves in sheep's clothing.

Move with those who contribute positively to your relationship. Most importantly, move closely with your spouse. Build companionship that thrives in sincerity and love.

Eagles Have Accurate Vision

Eagles can focus on something kilometers away, and they won't shift their focus until they achieve their goal. In the same way, have a clear vision for your home. Set goals, make plans, and remain focused together no matter the obstacles. This unity will make your marriage successful.

Many relationships fail because they lack a shared vision. A "shared vision" doesn't mean doing the same job-it means having one mind, one spirit, and one focus for building a lasting marriage.

Eagles Do Not Eat Dead Things

They feed only on fresh prey. This means: don't rely on past successes in your family. Always look for new goals to pursue and new ways to grow.

Stagnation should never have a place in your marriage. It will only make you outdated and disconnected. If you cling to your past achievements, your marriage may begin to decline without notice.

Leave the past where it belongs. Keep thinking, keep growing, and keep strategizing to move your home to greater heights.

Eagles Love the Storm

When storms come, the eagle soars higher using the wind of the storm. While other birds hide, the eagle rides the wind.

Likewise, your marriage will face storms-trials and challenges-but face them together. These storms can lift your relationship to higher ground if you face them in unity.

Achievers are not afraid of storms-they use them to their advantage. Trials in marriage are inevitable, but preparation and unity will determine your ability to overcome them. Unfortunately, many homes are unprepared. When the storm comes, the marriage may develop cracks, or collapse entirely.

Eagles Prepare for Training

Eagles remove feathers and soft grass from their nest, making it uncomfortable for their young. This discomfort prepares them for flight.

In marriage, evaluate whether your relationship is becoming too much of a comfort zone. Is there growth, progress, and joy? If not, work together in love to restore it.

A true comfort zone in marriage is filled with love, peace, happiness, and joy. It should be lively and open to meaningful change and contribution. Always be ready to learn and grow together to make your home an abiding haven-for you, your children, and even your neighbors.

Eagles Renew Themselves

When the eagle grows old, its feathers weaken. It retreats to a distant mountain, plucks out the old feathers, and grows new ones-renewing its strength.

In the same way, never allow your love for your spouse to grow old. Renew your love daily. Keep it fresh-like you just started yesterday.

Don't grow tired of each other. Many things may arise to try to extinguish your love, but don't give them space.

At the beginning of your relationship, don't give up-you're just getting started.

In the middle, don't break-it's where the deepest achievements lie.

While raising children, don't shift your love entirely to them-your spouse still needs your affection.

In old age, love even more dearly-your spouse is your companion for life.

Avoid staying far apart. Distance breeds loneliness, which can lead to emotional illness.

A Story to Reflect On

There was a family well-raised by both husband and wife. They had wealth, grown children with good jobs, and comfort.

As the children began to have their own children, the wife spent long periods helping them, leaving her husband alone in their large home with only the housekeeper.

The man expressed his feelings, saying she stayed too long away, but she didn't consider it deeply. She thought the housekeeper would take care of his meals. She forgot that marriage is more than food-it's companionship.

One day, she promised to spend just a week with their daughter, who had a new baby. A month passed, and she hadn't returned. The man, now deeply lonely, fell ill. Neighbors rushed him to the hospital.

A call was made to the wife. She rushed back home with their son-who had often warned her not to stay away so long. When the man saw his wife at the hospital, he regained strength.

The lesson: Never be far from your lover-no matter your age, work, or status. Emotional needs vary between people, and not everyone can handle loneliness.

Conclusion

Love is the greatest force. Like the eagle, let your love soar above challenges. Stay focused. Stay together. Renew your love always. Build a marriage that is strong, vibrant, and unshakable.

Remember: Love doesn't fail. But if you fail to keep loving, you may lose everything love was meant to build.