Chapter 3 Trust

I'm in a relationship with this guy I met thankfully to this Jodel group Two years ago and everything has been smooth since. I'm 17 years actually and this guy in question is 25.

I am the only girl in the mist of 4 males and having strict paranoid parents ever since we came to Ghana made me scared to open up at first cuz they feel like Ghanaian guys have nothing to offer (no offense to anyone tho) but my parents didn't have a problem with it since there is a whopping 11 years difference between them,their marriage is a success and they see potential both financially , Physically and emotionally in him. Before I Entered Senior high School, he was just everything my parents and most importantly, I wanted. Yes I know I'm young according to African norms but I'm still legal anyways.I have always been adviced by my parents to look out for a high value man who would respect me regardless and make me his priority aside chasing his purpose from my teenage years because looking at where I want my acadamia to reach, if i want to start dating after school, I might be in hitting my 30-39s of which I personally don't want. He recently came back to Ghana from the U.K and took over running his father's company on full time and ever since then communication has been shaky although he still keeps up with being sweet and sending me loads of goodies and surprises (it's reciprocated)...

I accept sometimes I don't reach out but his shift from being my clingy man to "oh have what you want but I'm not present" has dawn on me badly. He won't pick my calls, won't even read my messages and leaves me on delivered. When I call his network is jammed, when I do get him to pick my calls, he is always busy or driving which isn't him and he is a confident man, fumbling isn't him but he fumbles when talking to me as well..but when I logged into his active social media handles that is ig and twitter(we exchanged passwords of our socials to help know what's up with each other) it's all clean,his settings to redirect all calls that don't go through to me brought this one call of a lady that said she wanted to speak with her boss, my man.

One weird thing is the moment I picked up she was like "you know you had to thank me what happened at the office last time" continuing with some words in twi I didn't understand, later on when she heard my voice she switched and just asked to speak with her boss as I said earlier. I feel like he doesn't have time for me anymore and he might have done something behind me that I don't know about but obviously will detect it. Mostly every dawn while I study he wants to facetime so he can also work and monitor me study before the day begins. When my parents can't make it to my visiting he drives all the way from Accra to Kumasi to make sure I'm sorted(I'm Accra based, I just school in Kumasi). I don't believe in 50/50 relationship and I also don't believe he should do all the work either but at least, you can't be giving me the baby girl treatment and be absent minded. Just let me know what's going on..His mother told me he has changed and sleeps with my picture frame right by him looking like he cried two weeks after he resumed working in that company and the only thing he said when he was asked is " Mum, when she(Me) comes tell her I'm sorry I did that". It's kinda devastating at this point because the time we set to go on a vacation together with my family and his family is getting in the U.K is getting due and he still isn't the person I feel like i introduced to my parents as my man, he has changed and his change seems to be on a sad note too. I hope to finish high school early and be with him , I love him.