Chapter 3 The Weak Point

The Weak Point

As strong, committed, and spiritual as my husband, Solomon was as a vibrant youth, he had a weak point, which no one knew until later. His weak point was women and sex. He knew this and avoided women all through his youthful age to avoid falling into the act of fornication. Most people misunderstood him, especially ladies who wanted him, especially as a husband or had a crush on him. He was seen as anti-female. But I liked him more because I thought he wasn't the sex-loving type of person just like me. He was also not rich in terms of money, this was the reason most ladies in the Church never showed their interest in starting a relationship with him. Just like me, I never knew that he loved me too, not just because of my beauty, fame, or my parents' well-to-do, but because of my character and lifestyle. But he was afraid to approach me, he never knew if I would insult him, reject him or accept him. But after much self-struggle, he approached me at the end of the youth service program we had and proposed. I was very happy, but I did not show that to him, I rather told him, 'I will think about it, pray about it and get back to you.' He was the first person I have given such a hope-on answer. Yet, he was still afraid and was like, regretting approaching me.

After some time, I told him that I had prayed. Actually, I did pray about it and was convinced that he was my man. He was very happy to hear that, however, my parents, especially my dad, were not happy about my decision to marry him. Not that they hated him, no, they love him in everything, except his financial status. My parents thought he wanted to marry me because of their money. They assumed he would be a liability instead of an asset. When my father saw that my mind was made up about marrying him, he said to me, 'I will not stop you from marrying Solomon because I know that your mind is made up. However, you are on your own if you marry him,' he said.

Our Marriage and Honeymoon

After some challenges, we got married and it was a sweet one. Some years after our marriage, God bless my husband, he became the Assistant General Overseer of our Church after his theological school. He began to put his teachings and creative ideas into books and they sold out greatly. As against my parents' thoughts, my husband never became a liability to them. And even when we were struggling to survive, he never went to beg for anything from them to their surprise. However, the issue of sex nearly destroyed my home and turned every euphoric moment we had into dysphoria.