Chapter 5 Understanding a Woman

Attraction is the energy which draws people closer. When it comes to dating and relationships, the primary concept is attraction. Attraction is a natural thing, but pursuing this attraction is quite frightening for most of us. Some people have a natural tendency for this kind of a thing, but most of us are too nervous to even initiate a conversation with the person we are attracted to. But let me get one thing straight, if you want to be in the game, you have to understand the basic principles of attraction.

We find it difficult to understand attraction. Why things happen the way they do. But there is a principle behind this too. Attraction has always been a mystery, but at the end of this book, it will no longer be.

We all have our own viewpoint on relationships. The ones who have suffered a heartbreak often shy away from a relationship because they do not want to get hurt again. Some people find compatible companions and they often have successful relationships, and these people say that they have never been more happy than in a relationship. Some people date control freaks and mouth runners, and for them relationship is like a prison cell, with the same torturous routine.

The one thing you should know is, women cannot really control who they are attracted to, because, for them attraction occurs based on emotions. To put it simply, it doesn"t depend on looks and wealth as much as how you spark their emotions.

One of the best things you can do is broaden your social circles. The more secluded you are from others, the less chance you have of ending up in a relationship. Familiarity will increase attraction by two fold, and you will be exposed to more number of potential partners.

One thing that you must remember when talking to a woman is, you have to make her feel safe and comfortable around you. This is done by being completely honest and open with her. This will automatically lead to connection, and connection leads to attraction. So if you want to attract a woman, make her feel safe and connect with her first. The moment you start faking, she will feel threatened and think that you are hiding something and will automatically start closing up to you, both emotionally and physically.

But once you know the basic rules and principles of attraction, dating and relationships, you will have all the answers, and you will have an idea of why things work out the way they do.

Some of the basic facts that you need to know are

* Women are attracted to men that they can"t have.

* Women are attracted to men who are desired by other women.

* Women are attracted to men of high value.

We all love a challenge. We hold no value for free stuff, in the same way, women don"t care much for men whom they can easily get. They want a challenge.

Men usually decrease their value by doing the following mistakes.

* Giving her too much attention.

* Low self confidence and insecurity.

* Being too needy.

* Going out of his way to make her happy.

* Trying too hard.

* Seeking her approval for everything.

* Investing too much time and effort.

And one more thing. You shouldn"t lay bare your feelings very early in the relationship. It is always better if you are not the first one to blurt out the so called three magic words, "I love you".

If she is not ready for a commitment, she will probably freak out. If you just go with the flow and stop treating her like a future spouse, trust me, she will be the one saying those words.

Like I said before, knowing the concept is not enough. You will have to practice. You can start by making conversation with a random girl. It can be just a normal, day to day conversation. If you keep this up, eventually talking to any girl is gonna be a piece of cake.

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